On the lookout for love on actuality TV can’t be a simple factor (as Grant Ellis is about to search out out when The Bachelor premieres on the 2025 TV schedule), and but, Katie Thurston constructed her profession doing simply that. The previous Bachelorette was thrice unsuccessful to find her perpetually individual in entrance of the relationship present cameras, nevertheless it wasn’t like she might simply hit the apps anonymously anymore. Thurston opened up concerning the greatest change she needed to make, and I used to be really shocked by her perspective.
America first met Katie Thurston when she appeared as a sex-positive contestant on Matt James’ season of ABC’s relationship present in 2020, armed together with her trusty purple vibrator. She went on to to steer Season 17 of The Bachelorette, and in 2023 she was one of many leads of The CW’s FBoy Island. After the final of these relationships ended, rather a lot was totally different about the way in which she needed to strategy discovering a accomplice, and in Q&A on her Instagram Tales, she revealed the most important change, writing:
Having a big viewers was the most important shift in how I dated. I needed somebody who wasn’t intimidated by my giant viewers or excited to make use of my giant viewers. In case you have dust, these skeletons will make its option to me fairly rapidly (and for the very best).
After appearances on three actuality relationship reveals (to not point out her visitor position on Bachelor in Paradise), Katie Thurston had gained tons of of hundreds of Instagram followers, and loads of her followers had been invested in her love story. Not solely did she have to search out somebody who was OK together with her being a public determine in that manner, she had to verify any potential accomplice wasn’t utilizing her for her newfound fame.
That looks as if an enormous burden, particularly with followers who’re used to getting such an intimate have a look at her relationships, so I used to be shocked by that second a part of her reply, the place she suggests she’s grateful that her followers have been fast to alert her to any crimson flags within the guys she’s posted with. I might assume it might be such a ache to cope with DMs relating to any and all potential boyfriends, however she admits it was for the very best that she was in a position to have them mainly vetted by most people.
After all, it appears she realized her lesson from that, too, as she continued:
I additionally realized to not publish a man inside the first 90 days of relationship (it usually ended inside this exploration part). Posting a man too quickly has led me to increase a relationship far past its expiration date with the intention to keep away from embarrassment.
I suppose you possibly can’t have it each methods. Placing a relationship on the market for public consumption too quickly can put plenty of stress on it, and if the spark finally ends up fizzling anyway, it was all for nothing. Nevertheless, ready till issues are just a little extra severe earlier than hard-launching a brand new fella additionally means she doesn’t have the chance for these skeletons to be unearthed in a well timed method.
Fortunately for Katie Thurston, she doesn’t have to fret about that anymore. She’s now engaged to fellow comic Jeff Arcuri after assembly him earlier in 2024.
After competing for Matt James’ coronary heart on The Bachelor, Thurston acquired engaged to Blake Moynes throughout a dramatic Bachelorette finale that included her accusing contestant Greg Grippo of mendacity and gaslighting. She in the end referred to as off her engagement and started relationship John Hersey, one other contestant from her season, earlier than that additionally ended and he or she went on FBOY Island.
Possibly actuality TV didn’t lead immediately to like, nevertheless it acquired her fame, in addition to a reasonably constructive perspective on the upside of a public relationship.