After stepping away from the fact present highlight for a season, Dr. Contessa Metcalfe jumped proper again into the drama of Married to Drugs. It didn’t take lengthy earlier than issues received heated between herself and Dr. Heavenly Kimes because the digs minimize somewhat too deep throughout a ladies journey to the Westgate River Ranch Resort & Rodeo in Florida.
Hostilities remained after the close to rumble on the ranch for these former finest mates. Though the 2 labored to stay cordial for the sake of the group into the newest {couples} tour in Key West. We booked an appointment with Dr. Metcalfe for an examination about what unfolded throughout Season 11 to date and what else is in retailer.
You took a small break from the present. What went into your choice to return again?
Dr. Contessa Metcalfe: I used to be on the present for 5 years. I imply I missed my mates! They had been having enjoyable with out me. It was nice to see how they discovered how they had been going to calm down with Candy Tea (Lateasha Lunceford) within the combine. I’ll let you know it’s difficult for the brand new spouse to return into the group alongside the ex. That might have been arduous for me to do take care of. So after that received settled out, it was nice to return again and never have to decide on sides so to talk. Nicely, possibly? Perhaps not. It’s a problem.
Did it take some convincing in your husband Dr. Scott to agree to return again too?
All the ladies will let you know the boys are like, “They get nothing however the reward for being on the present.” After all, they turn into the topic generally. On the identical time, the boys are simply on the market out and about and love being acknowledged. Like, “I do know you.” You males prefer to get your egos rubbed. For him, it’s like so long as it’s good with the children. Ensuring the children are regular and in a secure house and there may be not an excessive amount of blowback. That’s the toughest factor. My children are older now. My children are additionally on social media. My oldest is 16. Having the ability to deal with the damaging blowback that occurs could possibly be arduous on their psychological well being. So we have now to watch out with that.
MARRIED TO MEDICINE — Pictured: (l-r) Phaedra Parks, Dr. Contessa Metcalfe, Dr. Heavenly Kimes, Lateasha Lunceford, Dr. Simone Whitmore, Dr. Jacqueline Walters — (Picture by: Derek White/Bravo)
Proper out of the gate, issues broke down between you and Heavenly. All of the feelings got here out. How was revisiting that alternate on the ranch? Social media was in your aspect, feeling Heavenly hit under the belt by citing your mother who was deceased into the argument.
We don’t know this for a reality, however I’m giving her somewhat little bit of grace this 12 months as a result of this 12 months she appears very indignant with all people. I believe she goes by way of one thing. I’d like to know what it truly is. As a lot because it was robust for me in that second, I did assume it was low. Like who does this? Nearly the subsequent evening and the evening out, the feelings got here down nearly instantly since you’re not that combative and that imply except you’re going by way of some issues your self. Perhaps simply possibly, we’ll discover out quickly sufficient, if there may be extra to the story. I do have a level in psychology, so there you go.
You then had been paired up collectively through the water recreation in Key West. Do you are feeling that defuse issues?
That was tough, wasn’t it? I’m like, “These ladies know what they’re doing.” They’re saying the paring was random. It was not random. I want she would have simply lifted her palms and let me deal with issues as a result of I’m at all times a winner. That’s the purpose. As a lot as we will travel and be combative, we may also be a group if we have to group up. It didn’t go very properly. It doesn’t imply we will probably be profitable and win, however we will do it. I additionally wished to show to show to the group that as a lot as there may be battle amongst us, that doesn’t imply we will probably be like youngsters and say, “I don’t wish to play anymore.” You may have a nasty day and stand up the subsequent morning and nonetheless do no matter is finest. 2025 has proven us already life is simply too brief.
I used to be cracking up seeing you and Scott stroll up searching for this pool get together. Then it seems to be a Vibe Test {couples} recreation. Did you all really feel arrange in that sense as a bunch?
I’d have worn a proper robe if I’d recognized what we had been strolling into. The pool was simply a part of the background. The Vibe Test was lots. I used to be pleased to listen to what was occurring with the opposite relationships. Like Scott and I are doing nice right here. Listening to [couples having] no intercourse? What are you all speaking about? Who does that? That’s the factor. Scott and I’ve been married 20 years. A variety of the opposite {couples} have been married even longer than that. For a few of the youthful {couples} and others within the relationship part, that Vibe Test exhibits you the transition that occurs. Then after all what occurred with Dr. Greg [Lunceford], Quad [Webb] and Tea. That was like insane. However it additionally exhibits you that regardless of divorce, there may be nonetheless numerous emotion proper under the floor.
What did you consider Dr. G attempting to silence Tea as Quad was getting in on him?
I do know them. I’ve talked to them. I’ve been at dinner when it’s simply myself, Scott, Tea and Greg and numerous interactions, he’ll say stuff like, “Ignore her. Don’t reply to her.” It’s arduous although. It’s arduous once you really feel such as you’re being triggered to not reply. I’ve heard him say over and over to her, “I don’t need you to have interaction. Don’t have interaction.” Then there may be the age hole. He desires her to do what he desires her to do, however Tea you realize for 2 years. You already know she isn’t going to be informed what to do. There’s this yin and yang on the subject of them. I believe she is discovering her footing and voice on this marriage. I don’t’ know what occurred earlier than, however I do know for a reality she just isn’t being informed what to do. I believe we’ve all been there in relationships. My husband is older than me. There was numerous instances he’ll say, “You don’t know what’s going on. I’ve been right here longer than you.” I’m like, “Don’t child me. Don’t inform me what you assume is occurring. I’ve been right here lengthy sufficient.” It took a while for us to should take care of that. He tried to inform me like t his at first of our relationship. Now watching it unfolds, possibly he was proper. Perhaps partaking was not proper for each of them. He ought to have taken his outdated recommendation.
How has it been attending to know Candy Tea? It looks as if Heavenly was taking offense that you simply had been getting near her. Perhaps seeing her as an outsider.
Which is a paradox as a result of she invited her to the group! Didn’t Heavenly deliver her! I assume she rescinded the invitation that we missed. That’s the factor. I simply should be sincere. I believe Heavenly simply desires me to be her good friend. She doesn’t know say that. Her actions are nearly like once you’re little and somebody likes you and hits you or calls you names or choosing at you as a result of they need your consideration. That’s what I see. I believe she is lacking our friendship. As a lot as she, talks about me, what else can I take from that?
It appears on the present you and Scott are in a superb place. How would you describe your relationship immediately? What have you ever taken from the previous to maneuver ahead like you have got?
Right here we’re 20 years. That is our twentieth 12 months of marriage. Each relationships has ebbs and flows. We’ve been by way of bumpy patches earlier than. We had been first lengthy distance in our marriage at first. So, once we first moved to the identical metropolis it was robust. After all, that seven-year interval. Having children was robust. Having to determine give Scott his Scott time and never simply focus all my consideration on the children as a result of that’s what mommies do. We get into mommy mode and overlook in regards to the relationship stuff. There have been instances we’ve had ebbs and flows, however we simply continue to learn and rising collectively. That’s what it’s all about. We’ve to make a acutely aware choice and dedication to our dedication. Time can deliver new challenges, but it surely additionally teaches us numerous classes. That’s what we proceed to do. The final couple of years have been some good years, however there have been additionally some robust years earlier than these. So, I believe we’ve earned this time.
MARRIED TO MEDICINE — Season:11 — Pictured: (l-r) Phaedra Parks, Toya Bush-Harris, Dr. Jacqueline Walters, Dr. Simone Whitmore, Quad Webb, Dr. Heavenly Kimes, Lateasha Lunceford — (Picture by: Phylicia J. L. Munn/Bravo)
You point out having a 16-year-old [Lauren]. What does she make of the present as she understands it extra?
I’ve needed to block my daughter earlier than as a result of she is an adolescent. When somebody says one thing damaging about mommy or our marriage, she is going to wish to say one thing and reply. I’ll have to inform her, “These are grownups. You can’t. Mommy can defend herself.” I’ve needed to inform her at instances to not have interaction or take issues personally. I do let her know we have now chosen to obtain this criticism and open our worlds up for commentary. You may’t be made when it’s not all optimistic. That’s true with households too. You may’t simply not converse to your dad and mom if they’ve one thing damaging to say about what’s going on in your relationship. You simply should go, “I’ll take this and obtain it and do what I need with it for this second. Perhaps it’s useful. Perhaps it’s not. You retain shifting.” You may’t internalize every part both. It has been a studying expertise for her to additionally get harder pores and skin. Be taught resilience.
What are you able to inform us about your story for the remainder of the season?
Look, I get to be the fun-time good friend. That’s my half. However what is occurring in our world, my husband and I simply bought a constructing final 12 months. It was an important alternative to broaden our apply. We now have determined to do extra complete main care. I additionally do dependancy medication. I’ve additionally been in a position to broaden our footprint to people who find themselves affected by opioid, alcohol abuse and so many different totally different points. I additionally do different addictions like dependancy to meals and so many different issues. We could possibly be right here all day to speak about all of the issues I see. I’ve been actually grateful of the chance to see what I do. I’ve gotten a realm of sufferers I didn’t anticipate. Working with my sufferers, it teaches me to be a greater mommy to my children. I be taught lots by way of my sufferers.
What are you able to tease in regards to the journeys developing? It appears issues is perhaps getting bodily with the blokes. We may have some safety at one level. What are you able to inform us?
The remainder of this season goes to be fairly pleasant. Visually, it will likely be stunning as a result of there may be numerous pomp and circumstance and costumes. Emotionally, I believe it will likely be robust for lots of the women and guys. Additionally, it’s additionally a lesson that we have now so many unresolved issues we have now generally beneath the floor. We maintain it collectively as we probably can. One single teeny tiny factor can break the dam and every part simply pours out like an avalanche, so you must watch. Once more, we opened up your self to this and the commentary. Additionally, have a look at our expertise and work out one thing you might have accomplished in a different way or possibly check out issues and see if it’s possibly one thing you want to handle in your finish. This season is emotional. I’ll say that. I hope I might be the good friend. This 12 months has been a secure 12 months for me. Once you’re going by way of it, you must be there for people who find themselves. I hope and pray I’ve been a superb good friend to all my mates who’re struggling proper now.
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